Why Life Is So Difficult When It's Not? | Eric Edmeades Speech | Goalcast
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Serial entrepreneur and Keynote Speaker Eric shares his secret to responding to emotionally challenging obstacles. It's all about shorterning the Hindsight Window...
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what emotions is my body having at this point how about anger and rage and our anger and rage useful well if the guys were here right now stealing the bags then anger and rage would be incredibly useful why is life so ******* difficult when it's not when we live in the easiest times ever we live in temperature-controlled houses so what's happening today is we're we're quite often facing these stresses that aren't actually real I mean they're very real in your body but they're not actually real life threatening stresses does this make sense my wife and I haven't been on tour for six months traveling around the world we've been building schools in Africa we've been teaching workshops around the world we've been doing really important work we arrived home and we had almost everything we owned with us because we'd been on the road for six months so we had I think it was seven suitcases full of everything we owned and our normal routine was to arrive home and halfway home we'd stop at the grocery store and we'd go in and get groceries because the house has nothing we haven't in there for six months and we'd stock up on groceries we come out so we go in and we get our groceries and we come out and I've got the groceries so I come to the back of the car and I open the car to put the groceries in but I know this is gonna be difficult because the bags are all in there I don't know how I'm gonna do it but I'm already thinking what I can move around and I open it up and I look down and I go oh oh he's moved two bags great I can put where did he move them to he didn't move them they're gone somebody has stolen everything we have every scrap of clothing all the computers cameras passports credit cards money heirlooms I mean everything was in these bags and I'm looking at so it's gone and suddenly my wife catches on and she just loses it she's just screaming and crying and I'm looking in the back of the car what do you what emotions is my body having at this point how about anger and rage and our anger and rage useful well if the guys were here right now stealing the bags then anger and rage would be incredibly useful but they're gone there's nothing I can do anger and rage are not useful in body just wants to do anger and rage what would help right now calm so I try to access calm but it's not available in the app store can't download calm it's just not coming and I started thinking about this stuff and I just got to this place noise like you know what we are truly gonna look back at this day and laugh one day we're gonna so we may as well do it now guys imagine this I'm in the parking lot I'm still standing looking and and I'm okay I'm actually okay with it I'm totally okay with it and then I start thinking yeah am i insane how did I do this and then I realize I've done everything that I've been writing about I've done everything that I've been talking about I've done everything that I've researched I've created super consciousness in that moment I turned to my wife don't I look calm and she goes you do how did you do that I know this is gonna sound crazy but you know that you and I would have just jumped right back into work you know that when we got home right you would have done all your catching up and I would have done on like a you know that now for the next two weeks all we can do is hang out watch movies walk on the beach that's all we can do there's nothing else she goes that does sound good she goes you've planned the whole thing out I go yeah it's pretty cool isn't it she goes it's not cool but it's not as bad as I thought it was the longer we stand there and contemplate it the more adrenaline we start to produce and the more adrenaline we start to produce the more negative we start to become because it's safer that way when events happen we have to be conscious about our response too often we let our bodies take over and it's in thinking about that I developed something that we call the hindsight window it's the period of time between an event that happens your life that feels bad and then one day when you realize it was actually good it's like that moment where somebody comes along says you're fired and in that moment it hurts and it's painful and it's terrible and then like a year later you look back you go thank God every note of life no matter how sharp or how flat is just another note in a perfect symphony that is your life life is happening for you all the time clean up your past if there are things that you're still holding on to that you're angry about a resentful about then find a way to assess a different meaning about those things and look at how they serve you we didn't come into this life for it to be easy we came into this life for us to get stronger every step of the way look at the entirety of it the bad event and all of the events inside and go you know what I can't delete that without losing all and then look at the things that trigger you right now just say we'll wait a second why would I give my power up to external events why would I give my power up to somebody else I don't want to be triggered like that and figure out how to prevent those things from happening don't be that person when the toughest things are happening when the hardest things are taking place that is the most important time to be conscious and choose your emotional response and I think if you can do that then like I said it's not that life gets easier but it's like it suddenly starts feeling easier and stuff comes along and it hits you and you go game on